When a death occurs, there is help available. Ministry at the time of death is a service offered by the church for the nurture of the members of the congregation and the community at large. Contact the Pastoral Care office and the funeral home of your choice for assistance. Together they will lead you through the steps that need to be taken in planning a funeral or memorial service. You may choose any one of our clergy to officate at the service.
Please contact the Pastoral Care office at 614 488.0681 ext 239.
Rituals and Death
“Blessed are they that mourn, for they shall be comforted.”
When a member of our family dies, it is appropriate and helpful to follow some time-tested patterns designed to allow us to experience our loss, to honor the deceased, and to examine the higher purposes which emerge as we seek to live life abundantly.
These aids to grieving include the following:
- If you feel comfortable doing so, view and touch the body of the deceased.
- Receive friends (at the funeral home or in the family residence) inorder to let them share this loss with the family and for the survivors to feel the support and sympathy of the gathered community.
- Consider having a service of memory at the church. A focus on the love of God and your community in the midst of this grieving time is most significant.
- An alternative would be conducting the funeral at the funeral home where fewer arrangements might be required.
- Finally, a graveside committal service is important whether it is restricted to immediate family or open to friends who have attended the service.
The significance of letting oneself move through the full sequence of the grieving process from viewing to touching the body, to a graveside good-bye is not always appreciated in our modern culture which has insulated us from death and made us feel these grief patterns are no longer necessary.
The fact that is a mistaken attitude has been clearly documented by contemporary medical, psychological, and sociological research in the field of grieving and death.
The church has long recognized that we cannot fully live in the present or in the future if we have not dealth with the powerful emotions generated by the loss of a loved one. The ceremonies and rituals surrounding death, when they accomplish their intention, help us discharge our emotions and lead us to a reaffirmation of life’s preciousness as a gift from God.