When a death occurs, there is help available. Ministry at the time of death is a service offered by the church for the nurture of the members of our congregation and the greater community. Contact the Pastoral Care office and the funeral home of your choice for assistance. Together they will lead you through the steps that need to be taken in planning a funeral or memorial service. You may choose any one of our Clergy to officiate at the service. Please email Robin Hood in the Pastoral Care office or call 614 488.0681 ext 235.
Rituals and Death
“Blessed are they that mourn, for they shall be comforted.”
When a member of our family dies, it is appropriate and helpful to follow some time-tested patterns designed to allow us to experience our loss, to honor the deceased and to examine the higher purposes which emerge as we seek to live life abundantly.
These aids to grieving include the following:
– If you feel comfortable doing so, view and touch the body of the deceased.
– Receive friends (at the funeral home or in the family residence) in order to let them share this loss with
the family, and for the survivors to feel the support and sympathy of the gathered community.
– Consider having a Service of Memory at the church. A focus on the love of God and your community in
the midst of this grieving time is most significant.
– An alternative would be conducting the funeral at a funeral home where fewer arrangements might be
– Finally, a graveside committal service is important whether it is for immediate family only or open to
friends who have attended the service.
The significance of letting oneself move through the full sequence of the grieving process from viewing to touching the body, to a graveside good-bye is not always appreciated in our modern culture, which has insulated us from death and made us feel these grief patterns are no longer necessary.
The fact that is a mistaken attitude has been clearly documented by contemporary medical, psychological and sociological research in the field of grieving and death.
The church has long recognized that we cannot fully live in the present or in the future if we have not dealt with the powerful emotions generated by the loss of a loved one.
The ceremonies and rituals surrounding death, when they accomplish their intention, help us discharge our emotions and lead us to a reaffirmation of life’s preciousness as a gift from God.